In the wide gray zone between "just dating" and "living together" lies a bittersweet hinterland. You know what I'm talking about. The two of you rarely spend a night apart, but you're not ready for the co-signed lease.
Sound Familiar?
Sometimes you're at her place, sometimes at yours.
You don't know where half your underwear is.
You can't find your shoes for work one morning and you realize you left them under his coffee table two nights before.
You pour yourself a bowl of cereal in the morning and you could swear you bought milk yesterday, and then you remember, "Ah yes, that was at my house. This is her house."
You need an expedition-sized backpack to tote around the clothes and beauty supplies you might need over the next few days.
Random items that don't belong to you sit in your bathroom and on your bedroom floor.
You're never quite sure where to hang your clothes at his house or how many pairs of socks you should let pile up at the end of her bed before you round them up and haul them out.
For all its hassle, this kind of my place-your place arrangement does have its charms. Who can resist a sleepover? And if variety is the spice of life, maybe two beds are better than one, wink wink, nudge nudge. Plus, the occasional night on your own for a soak in the tub and the luxury of hogging the whole bed to yourself is rarely overrated.
If your nomadic lifestyle's got you down, don't despair. It IS possible to minimize the hassle, maximize the fun, and fall asleep murmuring, Home Sweet Home on two different mattresses.
